**for mature audiences only**
I miss my husband in more ways than one. And I am completely willing to admit that I am hitting my sexual prime just as he is gone for extended periods of time. And that is bad.
But I figure I know what it must be like to be inside the mind of an 18-year-old boy. My goodness, how do they ever getting anything accomplished? I haven't a clue.
So when Jack Bauer sent me this Fox News headline, I just about fell over.
Need Another Reason to Have Sex?
Um, no I don't need another reason! I have plenty of reasons and desires thank you very much. I just need the right someone to have sex with!!! Can't the universe give me a break here??? Ugggg!Of course, Jack Bauer finds this all very amusing, and I've just set myself up here for some intense teasing by him.
Excuse me while I go bang my head against the wall for a while.
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gads...don't tell that to my hubby....I'm totally opposite!!!
Linda - I knew I could count on you for a comment on this topic. Thanks!
I wonder who dreamed this one up...LOL.
Heh! I hear you BW - I'm anticipating a LONG deployment in that area. *sigh*
Stacy - Yeah, I wonder who ...
Stephanie - I tell you, this is actually THE worst part of the deployment for me. Of course, it is not just the absence of sex, but the absence of that physical intimacy. I have spent a considerable amount of time analyzing this and searching what I am really feeling. I really could expound on this in detail, but I wanted to test the waters first.
Anywho, I am glad to know I am not alone.
This is probably one aspect of deployment that is not talked about in any length by just about anyone but believe me, EVERYONE is affected by it! Believe me, most humans were NOT born ASEXUAL.
Lemon Stand - I remember one day a few months back when "this" started hitting me pretty hard, I totally understood why people have affairs even though they say they love their deployed spouses. Of course, running into to the arms of another man is not the solution. But I recognized in myself that unmet need. Anyway, Jack Bauer and I talk about this quite a bit.
Let me introduce you to a great website:
www.goodvibrations.com
It's the only way to get through a deployment with a smile!
NEE - I got toys and a good stash of batteries. That is really not the issue. I cannot exactly snuggle with a vibrator. But thanks for the link. I still got 11+ months to go now, and I might wear out what I've got. ;-)
Ditto on this one BW.
but I guess I'll wait (like I have a choice) because the thought of another man makes me gag.
BW, for snuggling, I recommend this:
http://www.amazon.com/Snoozer-Full-Body-Pillow-Hypoallergenic/dp/B000067UY7
If you need snuggles back then a dog or a cat helps a lot.
TripleE - I am glad this resonants with you. I don't know, I think we all have choices, we just choose not to go that route.
NEE - Hmmm. Between the toys, the pillow, the doggies, and my very active and vivid imagination ... that just might work. I might have to give that a try. Thanks! Oh and some mentioned shopping for the husband's deodorant so I might even get the right smell. Oh this is working out nicely in my mind. :D
Okay, Mr. Bauer- where's YOUR comment?
Mel's Mom - Jack did get to read this post earlier in the day. He has been having internet problems.
oh, finally! when I brought up this subject at a meeting, the looks said "slut!, we can all go without sex for months and months and years...." Well... maybe THEY can. but I found it rather difficult, the cuddling part especially.
LAW
I thought it was interesting that my husband missed the snuggling too. When he returned from Iraq, he said that the second you step foot in that country, even the most mild-mannered guy turns into a sex maniac, thinking about it constantly. He said that what he was surprised to find was how much he just missed holding me, hugging me, etc. He just longed to give me a hug. Awwwwwww, just about killed me.
This is a topic that everyone experiences but no one brings up. My friends and I never really talked about it in detail, but we did get a little too excited watching Rocky III about 11 months into the deployment :)
LAW - I thought I was the same way and that the lack of sex was not going to be a problem. Well, I got a little more emotional healed and BAM! My sex drive kicked in not too long after Jack Bauer left after leave, which is about the time I started the blog (see post on perfectionism and privacy - interesting connection there between this all).
Sarah - I really don't have many people I talk "sex" with. A friend loned me "Original Sin" with Antonino Banderas and Angelina Jolie. H-O-T.
I've started working on another post about the other aspects of this intimacy issue.
You don't think I am driving all the way to Ft. Benning with 1 very active and bossy toddler, and 1 very bored teenager, so that we can actually see the Infantry Museum again, do you? Bwwaahahahha!!
Claire - LOL! You are going to snuggle. :o)
I've had several wives ask that I write about the post-deployment "booty call." I haven't yet figured out how to "gracefully" write about it, but yes, it is the elephant in the room, isn't it?
One things for sure, after that "fancy underpants" discussion with my husband, I'll certainly have to run it by him first....
Andi - Well, I'll keep trying to bring it up here. Hopefully, it will be done in a manner that will make us think and laugh. Gotta laugh about this.
Um, I thought it might be important to add (lest I get in trouble yet again) that the term, "booty call" was the exact terminology that two wives used when they asked me to write about this topic at SpouseBUZZ. Not my term, but I certainly do understand it...
Andi - I see how you are, backtracking and all. ;-)
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